Published: 08/21/2018 - Updated: 02/14/2019
Author: MSc. Miriam Reyes
To speak of the power of words, is to also speak of the power of silence. The art of remaining silent is a practice that sages and great religious and cultural masters know well. These people understand that resounding energy also represents a powerfully creative tool.
Words are undoubtedly, the conclusions to all our thoughts, feelings, and understandings. Knowing how to use words goes beyond just saying eloquent or brilliant things. We have been taught that speech is a useful way to communicate with others, but we know very little about how to use it creatively, and how to use it as a support. This support could integrate and strengthen what we most want to create in our lives.
We use words throughout the day, with several objectives: to explain, ask, defend ourselves, provide our own point of view, and to express what we feel and think. Every time something leaves our mouth, however, we are sending that energy out into the world, and we are making this energy (that charges our words) participate in this world.
Neurolinguistic programming (NLP) teaches us something very interesting: it suggests that all behavior stems from neuronal activity and its interaction with the body. Linguistics, on the other hand, is concerned with the study of our communication systems.
One NLP proposition is that we can influence our world through our word choice, which represents a powerful map to guide our lives. Because words are so important in our own personal world, we should never overlook them. We must learn to listen, above all, to ourselves. This requires us to make room for silence, to lend an ear to what we say every time we say or think something.
Good use of words
We must focus our words on what we want, and avoid “word vomit”, that spreads where we don’t want it to, or towards unnecessary things. There are several ways that the energy in our words becomes diluted: when we say things like “that’s great!”, for example, energy leaves us. Every time we express things like “Everything is so bad!”, “I’m on the verge of tears”, “I have so many problems”, “I’m a mess, an idiot, an imbecile!” etc., we’re saying unnecessary things one the one hand, and on the other, we are guiding the tracks of our speech with this intentionality.
We must learn to remain silent when speaking is not necessary, and to say things in a clear and concise manner. Each time we want to express something, it is best to pause for a few minutes before speaking to judge whether what we are going to say is really necessary.
Remaining silent forms part of understanding how to speak when appropriate. With this, our words gain more strength, they will be heard better, and once accepted, they will be more valued.
Revised by: Dra. Loredana Lunadei on 02/14/2019
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